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What I’ve Learned About Forever (From People Getting Married)
- Christie Becker
- May 26
- 2 min read
As a wedding musician, I don’t get a front-row seat. I get a quiet place to stand—off to the side, instrument in hand, present for every second. I’m not looking through a phone screen or fiddling with a corsage. I’m just there. Listening. Watching. Holding space with sound.
Over the years, I’ve absorbed tiny, powerful lessons about love. Not the grand declarations you hear in movies, but the real, unvarnished truths tucked into vows, whispers, and glances. Moments that pass by so quickly they’re almost missed—except I’m always watching.
Here are a few things I’ve learned about forever, from people standing right on the edge of it:
Love is Funny, Even at the Altar
“I vow to always get you your own fries, even if you say you don't want them because you'll just have one of mine.”
“I promise to always kill the spiders, unless I’m too scared, in which case I’ll scream with you.”
“If I die first, I’ll haunt you. If you die first, I’ll avenge you.”
I’ve heard so many versions of love, but the ones that stick often make people laugh. Humor doesn’t undercut sincerity—it reveals it. In every joke, there's an undercurrent of “I know you,” and “I still choose you.”
Timing Is Real, and So Is Patience
Some couples meet in high school. Others after divorce. Some took years to get here. One groom revealed that what started as casual games of pool in the break room turned into the biggest win of his life.
Forever doesn’t rush. It arrives exactly when it’s supposed to—and makes everything that came before make sense.
Your Person Isn’t Perfect—But They’re Yours
Vows often include the messy stuff:
“I will choose you every day, even when life gets hard.”
“When I don’t have the words, I’ll hold your hand.”
“I promise to stay—especially when it would be easier to walk away.”
These aren’t fairy tales. They’re compass points. Promises made not because love is easy, but because it’s worth it.
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Nature Holds a Mirror to Love
A pastor once said, “Human love begins and ends in a garden.”
It floored me.
Maybe that’s why so many ceremonies happen under trees, beside lakes, or near flowers. Nature reminds us that things grow slowly. They weather storms. They bloom in their own time.
The Vow Is Also to the Life You Build Together
Sometimes the vows aren’t just to each other—they’re to the life they hope to create.
To future children. To healing family rifts. To dedicating yourselves and your talents to your community, in love.
And even though I’m not the one saying “I do,” it’s impossible not to walk away changed.
Hi, I'm Christie!
With nearly 30 years of experience mastering the violin, I specialize in crafting bespoke setlists and arrangements that reflect your unique vision and preferences. Recognized with awards like "The Best of the Bash" and The Knot Best of Weddings, I'm dedicated to creating unforgettable musical experiences tailored to your event.
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