There’s No "One Way" to Do a Wedding

When I first started working in the wedding industry, I thought weddings had to look a certain way. Timelines, playlists, seating charts — I assumed there was a “right” approach.

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What I quickly learned is that every wedding is unique. And while each one is different, there are some consistent takeaways.

Making room for each couple to do their day differently requires a bit of structure. That structure is the skeleton — the ceremony, the meals, the transitions that keep the day moving. But everything in between? That’s where the uniqueness lives. The length and content of the ceremony, the styles of music and décor, the time of day, how meals are served, the way elements like vows and toasts and dances are placed — it’s all different.

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I knew that in theory, but it didn’t click until I saw what was cohesive across weddings: the structure supports the story, but the heart of it all — the “meat and potatoes” — is the love. Every story looks different, every celebration is different, and that’s the point.

In the wedding industry, we’re not selling timelines or playlists or trends.

We’re telling love stories.

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And that understanding — that there’s no "one way", only intention and presence — has quietly shaped the way I approach everything creative in my life.

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Christie Becker is an award-winning violinist bringing elegance, emotion, and a touch of magic to weddings and special celebrations. With a passion for creating unforgettable musical moments, she has been inducted into The Knot Hall of Fame and delights in helping couples make their love stories truly memorable.